Increase self-esteem?! My Persian cat has started giving me compliments

Hello!
I'm Inoue, the Persian cat at Beyond Shikoku office.

A book I recently came across has had a significant impact on my daily life, so I
wanted to share it with everyone and decided to start a blog about it.

"praise-based activities"Have you ever heard of the term
While searching for books on Amazon, the term "praise-based activities" caught my attention.
As I started reading, I found that it not only described the effects of "praise-based activities" but also included practical examples, which made me want to keep reading.
What's most surprising is that, without realizing it, reading about "praise-based activities" made me feel more positive and
motivated. I'd like
to introduce you to "praise-based activities" that you can start practicing tomorrow... no, starting today, right now.

Who should I praise first?

The most important thing I learned from "Praise Activities" is"praise yourself.
" First, try to list three good things about yourself.
I couldn't think of even three. Actually, I'm a Persian cat with low self-esteem ...
・顕在意識＝意識できる意識
, and subconscious mind = the unconscious mind
"Praise Activities" states that we have two things within us:
Because the "subconscious mind" is unconscious, it is easier to realize things.
For example, someone who subconsciously thinks "I am positive" can surprisingly easily return to their positive self even if something negative happens.
telling someone who subconsciously thinks "I am negative" to "think positively!" It is said
it's not so easy to become positive by
by imagining the person you want to be and repeatedly thinking "I am ____," your conscious mind will change into your subconscious mind.
Be sure to fill your subconscious mind with good things!
Even if you don't truly believe it at first, by repeatedly saying "I am amazing," it will be imprinted on your subconscious mind.

"I" am a unique being, and life is precious as it is

I thought, "What wonderful words!"
- Experience how amazing you are. (The DNA that gave me my life is amazing!)
- Accept your life just as it is.
It's important to feel love for yourself, no matter how small it may be.
Today, I went to work as usual and worked hard, so I am wonderful.
Today, even though I was tired from work, I prepared a meal and enjoyed eating it, so I am wonderful. I
praised myself for working hard today and took a relaxing bath, so I am wonderful.
When you turn the "ordinary" into words of praise, lots of praise for yourself will come to mind.

Compliments move people

When people are praised, they try to live up to those expectations again.
They want to maintain their good standing in the presence of the person who praised them.

Reading these words struck me. I'm
often told, "Inoue-san, you're always smiling. You're so cheerful," so I think that by consciously trying to be that way, I've
subconsciously become "someone who's always smiling." I feel that
by praising and acknowledging rather than criticizing, we unconsciously try to find the good in others, and relationships improve.
Having good relationships has a big impact on our daily lives, whether at work or at home.
Prepare compliments for people you see every day.
And the most important thing is to put them into words and tell them.
No matter how much you respect someone in your heart, unfortunately, it won't be conveyed unless you say it out loud.
Japanese people have a "culture of humility," but there are hardly any people who don't like being praised.

Make compliments your habit

By consciously making compliments a habit, it becomes easier to give compliments.
Through repetition, conscious thoughts gradually become subconscious.

Praising family, friends, and colleagues is what truly changes your life.
If you take everything for granted, you'll run out of things to praise.

① Casually compliment others with "Likes" on social media.
Make it a habit to consciously press "Like" within the limits of what you enjoy.
On Facebook, you can press "Super Like" by long-pressing "Like."
If you feel that someone has posted a wonderful article, you might want to casually press "Super Like."
② When you think "That's nice,"
it's a chance to compliment. Not only give compliments, but also mention small changes you notice.
For example, "Did you get a haircut?", "Your outfit today is lovely," or "You seem to be in a good mood today."
Nails and accessories are easy points to compliment.
When women have their nails done, they often take good care of their appearance.
③ Expand your repertoire of compliments.
Complimenting someone means making them happy, and you also benefit from that.
Replace negative words with compliments.

 - Nervous = Good at details
- Selfish = Has convictions
- Careless = Easygoing
- Easily bored = Curious
- Stubborn = Has strong convictions
- Inexperienced = Fresh
- Slow = Careful

I believe that by changing the way you say things or how you perceive them, shortcomings can turn into strengths.
④ Give compliments with reactions.
You yourself will feel happier if you are complimented with a smile rather than with a blank expression.
It is said that the information that others receive is 50% auditory information (voice) and 50% visual information (gestures).
Reactions that you yourself think are "a little exaggerated" are often easier for the other person to understand.
⑤ Start by giving.
It's naive to expect to receive without giving anything in return.
If you try to find the good in others, you'll find it surprisingly easily.

Let's nourish the roots of our hearts with the water of "words of praise."
The most important thing is the nourishment of the heart through "praise."

Don't forget that giving praise enriches your own heart as well

My Persian cat is practicing! I've started giving him praise

First, what I practice is
"That's wonderful" or "That's amazing"
to make it a habit to use simple compliments like
Also, I try to say "thank you" more often than "I'm sorry" or "Excuse me." I've always been good at
using "thank you" in small ways, but
after reading about the importance of compliments, I feel like I've been reminded of the importance of that one word, "thank you." It
's also important to compliment someone as soon as you meet them.
I feel that complimenting someone when you meet them and your eyes meet is more likely to resonate with them.
The moment I compliment someone and they smile, I definitely feel a sense of happiness myself.

■Things I gained from practicing the art of giving compliments:
- I became more positive than before.
- I can now easily talk to people I didn't used to talk to much.
- I can now have lively conversations with people I meet for the first time.
- Saying "delicious" when eating has made meals more enjoyable.

It may seem like a small thing, but I think "praise" is something we often do but don't actually do enough of.
Reading is a good way to take advantage of the current stay-at-home mood!
And when communication is difficult,
"praise" might just make things smoother. (*'ω' *)

Growing every day, moving forward every day.
I must update myself every single day!!!
Thank you for reading to the end.