Increase self-confidence? ! My Persian cat has started to praise me.

Hello!
This is Inoue, a Persian cat from Beyond Shikoku Office.

A book I read recently had a big impact on my daily life, so
I decided to blog about it so I could share it with you all.

Do you know the word
"praise" While googling books on Amazon, the word "praise" caught my attention.
When I started reading the contents, I found that it not only contained the effects of ``commendation'', but also included practical examples, so I was able to keep reading.
The strangest thing of all is that when you read ``Koikatsu,'' you feel more positive and your
motivation increases without you even realizing it.
Starting tomorrow... no, starting today, I'd like to introduce you to ``Kei-katsu'' that you can practice from now on.

Who should I praise first?

What I thought was the most important thing in ``complimenting'' is
``praising yourself.'' First of all, please list three good things about yourself.
I couldn't think of just three. In fact, he is a Persian cat with low self-esteem ...

It is written in ``Keikatsu'' that we have two parts within us:

, and subconscious mind = unconscious mind The ``subconscious mind'' is unconscious, so it is easy to realize.
For example, people who subconsciously believe that ``I am positive'' can easily return to their positive self even when something negative happens.
However, even if you say, ``Let's think positively!'' to someone who subconsciously thinks ``I'm negative,'' they
won't be able to think positively that easily.
It is said that by imagining the person you want to be and repeatedly thinking, ``I am 〇〇,'' your conscious mind turns into your subconscious mind.
Be sure to put good things into your subconscious mind!
Even if you don't think it from your heart at first, repeating ``I'm amazing'' over and over again will imprint it on your subconscious mind.

``I'' am a unique being, and life is precious as it is.

I thought what a wonderful word.
・Experience your own greatness. (The DNA that I was born with is amazing!)
- Let's accept life as it is.
It's important to feel love for yourself, no matter how small.
It's amazing that I came to work today and worked hard as usual.
It's amazing that even though I was tired from work, I prepared a meal and ate it deliciously.
It's wonderful to see myself taking a relaxing bath and thinking, ``You worked hard today.''
When you use "normal" as a compliment, many compliments come to mind.

Compliments move people

When people receive praise, they try to live up to their expectations next time.
In front of that person (the person who complimented you), you want to maintain your reputation.

When I read these words, I was taken aback.
People often say, ``Inoue-san, you're always smiling, aren't you? You're so cheerful, aren't you?'' So while I've been conscious of myself in that way, I
feel like I've subconsciously become ``someone who's always smiling.''
I feel that by praising others by acknowledging their hard work rather than criticizing them, people will unconsciously try to discover the good points in the other person, and this will improve interpersonal relationships.
Good interpersonal relationships have a big impact on you in your daily life, both at work and at home.
Be prepared to compliment people you meet every day.
And the most important thing is to put it into words and convey it to the other person.
No matter how much respect you have for someone in your heart, unfortunately, it won't be conveyed unless you say it out loud.
Japanese people have a culture of humility, but I don't think there are many people who don't like being praised.

make compliments a habit

By being conscious of compliments and making them a habit, you will find it easier to praise others.
Through repetition, your conscious mind turns into your subconscious mind.

Your life will change if you praise your family, friends, and people you work with.
If you think that everything is ``natural!'', you won't have anything to praise.

① Feel free to praise someone with a “like” on SNS.
Get into the habit of consciously clicking "Like!" to the extent that you enjoy it.
On Facebook, if you press and hold "Like" for a little while, you can press "Super Like".
If you feel like I'm posting a great article, feel free to click "Super Like".
② Opportunity to praise when you think it's nice
Don't just give a compliment, say it when you notice a small change.
For example, ``Did you get a haircut?'' ``Your clothes look nice today'' ``You look like you're in a good mood today''.
Nails and accessories are easy to compliment.
If a woman has her nails done, she is likely to be very careful about her appearance.
③ Increase your repertoire of compliments.
Praising someone means making the other person happy, and you also benefit from it.
Replace negative words with compliments.

・Nervous = Good at details
・Selfish = Has beliefs
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Rough = easy-going ・Getting bored = curious
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= particular ・Inexperienced = fresh
・Slow = polite

I think if you change the way you say things and feel things, you can turn your weaknesses into strengths.
④ Add a reaction and praise.
You will be happier if you are praised with a smile rather than with a blank face.
It seems that 50% of the information received by the other person is audible information (voice) and 50% visual information (gestures).
Sometimes it's easier to convey to the other person a reaction that makes you think, ``I'm exaggerating.''
⑤Start by giving.
I'm sure it's a naive idea to ask for something when you haven't given it yet.
If you try to find good things, they are surprisingly easy to find.

Let's give water to the roots of our hearts with words of praise.
The most important thing is the nourishment of "praise".

Don't forget that praising others also enriches your heart.

Persian cat practices! I started praising myself.

First of all, what I practice

is to use easy-to-use compliments like
"You're wonderful" or "You're amazing" And I try to say "thank you" rather than "I'm sorry." or "I'm sorry."
I've been using the word "thank you" carefully for some time, but
after reading the compliments, I feel like I was reminded once again of the importance of saying "thank you."
It is also important to compliment the people you meet.
I feel it's easier to compliment someone when you meet them today and make eye contact with them.
The moment I praise someone and see them smile, I definitely feel a sense of happiness.

■What I learned from practicing praise.
・I became more positive than before.
・I can now easily talk to people I didn't really talk to before.
・I am now able to have lively conversations with people I meet for the first time.
・When I say "delicious" when I eat rice, I enjoy eating more.

It's a small thing, but I think it's a ``compliment'' to do things that you usually do, but don't do often.
It's also a good idea to take advantage of the self-restraint mood to read!
When you find it difficult to communicate well,
``compliment'' may make communication smoother. (*'ω' *)

Growing every day, moving forward every day.
I have to update myself every day! ! !
Thank you for reading to the end.