Increase self-confidence? ! My Persian cat has started to praise me.

Hello!
This is Inoue, a Persian cat from Beyond Shikoku Office.

A book I came across recently had such a big impact on my daily life that I
wanted to share it with you all, so I decided to make it into a blog.

Are you familiar with the term
"praise activity" While searching for books on Amazon, the term caught my eye.
When I started reading, I found that it not only explained the effects of "praise activity" but also included practical examples, which kept me reading.
What's most amazing is that while reading "praise activity," I felt positive and
my motivation increased without even realizing it. I
'd like to introduce you to "praise activity," which you can start practicing from tomorrow...no, from today, right now.

Who should I praise first?

The most important thing I found in "praise activities" "praise yourself .
" First, try listing three "good things" about yourself.
I couldn't think of even three. Actually, I'm a Persian cat with low self-esteem ...

"praise activities" explains that we have two minds:

) and the subconscious mind (the unconscious mind Because the "subconscious mind" is unconscious, it's easy to realize this.
For example, someone who subconsciously believes, "I'm positive," can easily return to a positive state even when negative events occur.
However, if someone subconsciously believes, "I'm negative," telling them to "think positively!"
doesn't lead to positive thinking so easily. It seems that
by imagining the person you want to be and repeatedly telling yourself, "I am...," your conscious mind will change into your subconscious mind.
Be sure to fill your subconscious mind with positive things!
Even if you don't truly believe it at first, repeatedly telling yourself, "I'm amazing," will imprint it on your subconscious mind.

"I" am a unique being, and life is precious as it is

I thought these were such wonderful words.
・Experience how amazing you are. (The DNA that has made me who I was born is amazing!)
・Accept your life as it is.
It's important to feel love for yourself, even if it's something small.
I'm amazing because I went to work today as usual and worked hard. I'm amazing because
I prepared a meal and ate it deliciously even though I was tired from work today.
I'm amazing because I took a nice, relaxing bath and rewarded myself by saying, "I worked hard today too."
If you turn "obvious" into a compliment, lots of compliments for yourself will come to mind.

Compliments move people

When people are praised, they try to live up to those expectations the next time.
They want to maintain their reputation in front of that person (the person who gave them the praise).

When I read these words, I was taken aback.
"Inoue-san, you're always smiling. You're so cheerful," I often hear people say, so I
think that subconsciously, while being conscious of that about myself, I've become "someone who's always smiling."
By praising others by acknowledging and appreciating them rather than criticizing them, I feel like I unconsciously seek out their good points, which leads to better relationships.
Having good relationships has a big impact on our daily lives, both at work and at home.
Prepare compliments for even those you see every day.
And the most important thing is to put them into words and convey them to them.
No matter how much respect you have for someone in your heart, unfortunately, they won't be conveyed unless you say it out loud.
Japanese people have a "culture of humility," but I don't think there are many people who don't feel bad about being praised.

Make compliments your habit

By consciously using compliments and making them a habit, it becomes easier to give compliments.
By repeating it, your conscious mind will change into your subconscious mind.

Praising your family, friends, and coworkers will change your life.
If you take everything for granted, there will be nothing to praise.

1. Give casual compliments with "Likes" on social media.
Make a habit of consciously pressing "Like" within the scope of what you enjoy.
On Facebook, you can press "Like" for a little longer to turn it into "Super Like."
If you think someone has posted a great article, feel free to press "Super Like."
2. When you think something is good, that's your chance to give a compliment
. Don't just give compliments, mention any small changes you notice.
For example, "Did you get a haircut?", "Your outfit looks nice today," or "You look like you're in a good mood today."
Nails and accessories are easy targets for compliments.
Women who have nails often take great care with their appearance.
3. Expand your repertoire of compliments.
Giving compliments means making others happy and benefiting from them.
Replace negative comments with compliments.

・Nervous = Good at details
・Selfish = Has convictions
・Rough = Easygoing
・Easily bored = Curious
・Stubborn = Has particular preferences
・Inexperienced = Fresh
・Slow = Polite

I think that if you change the way you say and feel things, you can turn a weakness into a strength.
4. Praise with a reaction.
It's nice to be praised with a smile rather than with a blank expression.
It seems that 50% of the information that others receive is audible (voice) and 50% visual (gestures).
A reaction that you might think is a bit over the top is often easier for the other person to understand.
5. Start by giving first.
It's probably naive to expect others to give to you when you haven't given anything.
When you try to find good things, you'll find them surprisingly easily.

Let's water the roots of our hearts with words of praise.
The most important thing is to give praise as nourishment for our hearts.

Don't forget that giving praise enriches your own heart as well

My Persian cat is practicing! I've started giving him praise

First, what I practice is

to make it a habit to use simple compliments like
"That's wonderful" and "That's wonderful" when I talk to people. I also try to say "thank you" more often than "excuse me" or "sorry." I've always said
"thank you" often, but
after reading "Praise Activities," I feel like I was reminded once again of the importance of the word "thank you." It
's also important to give compliments when you first meet someone.
I feel that compliments made by meeting someone today and making eye contact are more likely to resonate with them.
The moment I compliment them and they smile, I undoubtedly feel a sense of happiness.

■What I gained from practicing praise activities:
・I've become more positive than before.
・I can now talk freely with people I didn't talk to much before.
・I can now have lively conversations with people I've met for the first time.
・Saying "delicious" when eating has made eating more enjoyable.

It may seem like a small thing, but I think that "giving compliments" is something that we usually seem to be able to do, but don't quite manage to do.
Taking advantage of the self-restraint mood at home to start reading is also a good idea!
When you're having trouble communicating well,
"giving compliments" may help make communication smoother. (*'ω' *)

Growing every day, moving forward every day.
I have to update myself every day! ! !
Thank you for reading to the end.